The Ten Best Nuggets of Relationship Advice You'll Probably Find Online Today
Gordon Livingston, M.D., author of "How To Love" shares the five biggest mistakes we make in the name of love and what every person should understand about love before the age of 18.
Gordon Livingston, M.D., author of How To Love: Choosing Well At Every Stage of Life says "most of us get the spouses we deserve."
Ten Best Nuggets of Advice for Those Who Want Healthy, Loving Relationships:
1. Learn as much as you can about those traits you seek in a partner and develop them in yourself.
2. Be alert to signs of self-absorption. It is a fatal flaw.
3. Kindness is the essential virtue from which most others derive.
4. Don't link your life to someone who lacks a working sense of humor that resembles your own.
5. Have a long engagement so that you see your prospective partner in a variety of situations over time.
6. Do not settle for less than your fondest desire.
7. Do not imagine that your beloved will change his or her basic personality after marriage.
8. Don't marry anyone whom you wouldn't take a bullet for.
9. Ask yourself if your prospective partner will gladly feed you with a spoon if or when you require it.
10. Remember that we are not what we say, not how we feel, not what we think. We are what we do.
Biggest Mistakes We Make In The Name of Love.
1. Over-optimism about our ability to change another person.
2. Settling for less than we deserve in a relationship and consoling ourselves that "Nobody's perfect."
3. Choosing someone for superficial reasons (e.g. physical attractiveness, income).
4. Not learning when we are young the qualities of character that wear well over time.
5. Believing the canard that, "All relationships are hard work." It is bad relationships that are hard work.
Five Tips About Love Every Person Should Be Taught Before Age 18:
1. Love follows friendship.
2. "Love at first sight" is a dangerous illusion.
3. Most of us get the spouses we deserve.
4. All couples have disagreements; not all couples fight.
5. The most dangerous food to eat is a wedding cake.
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